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How Resilient Are You Under Pressure?
And…
How Well Are You Able To Rise Above And Positively Deal With Everyday Stress?

good people who are seeking ways to combat this epidemic

WHY STRESS AND ANXIETY ARE A WORRY

GLOBAL STATISTICS

IN AUSTRALIA:

Stress and wellbeing in Australia survey 2015 drinking alcohol (61%), gambling (41%), smoking (40%) and recreational drug use (31%)https://www.psychology.org.au/news/media_releases/8Nov2015-stress/


IN THE UK:

  • In 2015/16 stress accounted for 37% of all work related ill health cases and 45% of all working days lost due to ill health.
  • The main work factors cited by respondents as causing work related stress, depression or anxiety (LFS) were workload pressures, including tight deadlines and too much responsibility and a lack of managerial support
  • Source: http://www.hse.gov.uk/statistics/causdis/stress/

IN THE US:

7 TOP CAUSES OF STRESS:

  • Job pressure due to co-worker tension, bosses, work overload
  • Money pressure due to loss of job, reduced retirement, medical expenses
  • Health worries due to health crisis, terminal or chronic illness
  • Relationship distress due to divorce, death of spouse, arguments with friends, loneliness
  • Poor nutrition due to inadequate nutrition, caffeine, processed foods, refined sugars
  • Media overload due to television, radio, internet, e-mail, social networking
  • Sleep deprivation due to inability to release adrenaline and other stress hormones
  • Source: http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress/2015/highlights.aspx

IN EUROPE:

  • Work-related stress is the second most frequently reported work-related health problem in Europe — after musculoskeletal disorders. Around half of workers consider it to be common in their workplace.
  • 50–60% of all lost working days can be attributed to work-related stress.
  • In a recent European poll conducted by EU-OSHA the most common causes of work-related stress cited were job reorganisation or job insecurity (72% of respondents), working long hours or excessive workload (66%) and being bullied or harassed at work (59%).
  • The same poll showed that around 4 in 10 workers think that stress is not handled well in their workplace.
  • Source: http://hw2014.healthy-workplaces.eu/en/stress-and-psychosocial-risks/facts-and-figures
Stress and anxiety.    Anxiety and stress. 


Stress and wellbeing in Australia survey 2015 drinking alcohol (61%), gambling (41%), smoking (40%) and recreational drug use (31%) https://www.psychology.org.au/news/media_releases/8Nov2015-stress/

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ARE YOU EXPERIENCING ONE OR MORE OF THE FOLLOWING SYMPTOMS OF STRESS?

SIGNS OF STRESS INCLUDE:

  • Sleep disturbance, insomnia
  • Upset stomach
  • Anxiety
  • Anger, irritability
  • Depressive
  • Feeling overwhelmed, out of control
  • Fatigue
  • Inability to let things go (rumination)

THE EFFECTS OF STRESS ON YOUR BODY
check out this interesting article

12 WAYS TO BEAT STRESS AND ANXIETY

12 ways we can get that stress monkey under control

ONE: AWARENESS AND CONSCIOUS THINKING

TWO: JOURNAL YOUR FEELINGS


27 feelings experienced every waking hourEmotional Intelligence 2.0 


THREE: GET MORE PRESENT WITH YOURSELF


What is the best thing I can do for myself right now?”

Whether it is a toilet break, a trip to the kitchen for a cup of water, a quick stretch or grabbing a healthy bite to eat, asking this question will allow you to make better decisions and help you look after yourself.

FOUR: BREATHE!


Taking 3 – 5 deep breathes in and gently releasing them

FIVE: THE JOY OF MEDITATION


Read more about meditation from my article on this here.closing my eyes and focusing on my breathing for a few minutes


SOME GREAT APPS TO HELP YOU WITH MEDITATION INCLUDE:


  • HEADSPACE

Headspace co-founder Andy Puddicombe is a former Buddhist monk aiming to make meditation accessible. He delivers the directed 10-minute sessions in his relaxed style  – no hippy talk here, he strips it down to basics and throws in the odd joke.

Free and paid versions available: http://www.getsomeheadspace.com


  • SMILING MIND

Adults aren’t the only ones who are stressed. Sometimes you need to think of the kids too. Smiling Mind was created in Australia and is aimed at helping young people de-stress and stay calm. There are tailored programmes for different age groups, all delivered in relaxing Aussie tones. There’s one for adults too so you don’t have to miss out.

Free, available on iPhone, iPad and Android: https://smilingmind.com.au/smiling-mind-app/


SIX: PERSONAL POWER STATEMENTS OR AFFIRMATIONS

The field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming allowed us to understand how we think, feel and act better.  It has also given us affirmations which are a very powerful technique if used consistently.  Positive affirmations are very simply:  positive self-talk. They provide us with a way of intercepting our negative unconscious thoughts and biases that may be holding us back. Your affirmations should be positive and in the present tense.  By saying the affirmations consistently each day for a period of 63 days, you create a new neural pathway that will over time become more powerful than the “old, self-limiting” belief you held.  Your brain responds to your affirmations because you become what you say to yourself most of the time.


SOME EXAMPLES OF AFFIRMATIONS WHEN YOU ARE UNDER PRESSURE COULD INCLUDE:

  • I am ok
  • I’ve done this before and it’s been ok
  • I’ve got this

And, if your brain is resistant to what you are telling it, it may be that you adapt your language to include what you are becoming:

  • I am becoming better at managing my stress
  • I am improving in my positive self-talk everyday
  • I am getting better at dealing positively with stressful situations


THE PROCESS:

  1. Read them to yourself out loud

  2. Read them out a second time, this time silently

  3. Read them out a third time by running your finger under each word as you quietly say them out loud

  4. You can say these out loud as often you as you need although I have found it useful to create a ritual of first thing in the morning and last thing before I sleep – but it’s up to you!



SEVEN: REACHING OUT

Often we tend to shut-down and go into isolation mode when we are anxious and stressed. This is counter-intuitive because we were made for connection, not isolation. Isolation increases our sense of overwhelm and anxiety. And that should give us an indication that it’s not good for us. Instead, reach out to friends and loved ones for support.


Make time to go out for a coffee or a bite to eat at a favourite restaurant, or why not try someplace new to meet-up The endorphins that are released when you share your troubles or even step away from them for an hour or two can be very beneficial. And, if you don’t have a support circle you can turn to, there are a number of hotlines you can call that will put you in touch with the support you need.


GLOBAL HELPLINES


https://www.beyondblue.org.auwww.teenhealthandwellness.com/static/hotlines and https://psychcentral.com/lib/telephone-hotlines-and-help-lines/www.depressionuk.org/national_links.shtmlhttp://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/Europe/www.sadag.org/ 

EIGHT: LETTING IT GO

Did you know that hostility has a direct correlation to cardiovascular disease (Miller, Smith, Turner, Guijarro, & Hallet, 1996) and your overall health?  When you hold onto your anger and hurts, you sabotage your body because you hold onto and retain the emotions related to these.  And, when you hold on, you release negative chemicals that create inflammation – a known cause of cancers, cardio vascular diseases and so on. Dr. Pietrini, at the University of Pisa in Italy, has been exploring whether forgiveness exerts a positive effect on you and me.  


His research showed that anger and vengeance inhibited rational thinking and caused high activity in the amygdala, which is involved in the fight-or-flight response. Anger and rage, then, impede reason. He found that because forgiving represents an approach for the individual to overcome a situation which otherwise would be a major cause of stress, it can have a significant impact on our body, emotional and brain health. Your ability to cognitively control your emotions is a key factor in helping you reframe and let go of situations and experiences that are literally, weighing you down.


THREE WAYS TO REFRAME NEGATIVITY 

Reframing involves using your cognitive reasoning to see things from different perspectives.  So, although the facts stay the same, you are able to mentally “reframe” the picture so that it looks different.  And, this can be very helpful in letting things go.


YOU CAN REFRAME IN 3 WAYS:

ONE: DE-ESCALATING REFRAME

You reframe an event by devising a new, less upsetting interpretation of a painful event.g. when my husband teases me about leaving my phone on silent after a day in workshops and his frustration of not being able to contact me, I often feel that he is criticising my ability to manage my life. By understanding how frustrating it must be for my husband or anyone trying to contact me via mobile when I have left it on silent, I can step away from the feelings of being criticised to seeing it as feedback from someone who loves me and wants to stay in contact with me.


TWO: POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE REFRAME

Another way to reframe is to consider a range of possible points of view that led someone to act a certain way. This makes it more difficult to blame and demonize that person and continue generating the same level of resentment as you did before.g.  In a recent downsize in one of my client’s organisations, a number of errors were made that directly impact on my ability to put food on the table.  Rather than taking the errors personally, I was able to step back and imagine the course of events that created the errors, the emotions my client’s staff were experiencing during a very difficult time.  This helped me to let go of my frustrations and be more open to


THREE: OPPORTUNITY REFRAME

Finally, by asking yourself what constructive learning, meaning, or opportunity may have resulted from an offense and the suffering it caused. E.g. In the case of forgetting to put my phone off silent, I recognise that there is an opportunity for me to learn to pause at the end of my training day, before I rush off to collect my daughter from school and the chaos of life.

A great article on the science of forgiveness can be found here


NINE: REDIRECT AND REFOCUS

Have you ever noticed how you tend to ruminate on a negative event – perhaps even waking up during the night because it has disturbed you so much? When you ruminate and hang onto negative events, you release chemicals which are not good for you, your body or your brain to function well. Cortisol, also known as the stress hormone, may be good for you at level one – because it helps you stay on a task. But, at levels 2 and 3, it can cause serious long-term damage to your body, brain and emotional happiness.


Redirection and refocus is a great technique that a lot of parents use when their children are acting up. They use this technique unconsciously, to take our little people from a state of stress or anxiety, to a happier state. And it works! Have you ever watched a child who is getting really upset? If a parent or care-giver can intercede before they get to tantrum state and redirect their focus and energy, they can get the child to calm down. As an adult, you too can consciously redirect your focus when you notice yourself starting to get sucked into the drama of a situation. When you notice that you are starting to get anxious, angry, or overly frustrated with an event or person, change the activity you are involved in to redirect your focus. It does take a little practice but the benefits are worth the conscious effort!


TEN: THE SIMPLE GIFT OF GRATEFULNESS

Up until the early 2000’s, there was not a lot work in the area of gratefulness.  Until that is, when Emmons and McCullough shared their findings on this fascinating topic.  In their journal, The Psychology of Gratefulness, the authors have brought together prominent scientists from various disciplines to examine what has become known as the most-neglected emotion.  


Some fascinating studies into this little-known area are included in the journal and the results were pretty amazing:  by practising gratefulness, you can increase your happiness levels and decrease the feelings associated with negativity, depression, anxiety. The act of being grateful  raises the positive chemical levels in your body and allow you to feel good about yourself, the people around you and the environment in which you work. By choosing to focus on 3 experiences over a period of your day that you are grateful for, you can significantly increase your ability to focus and get into “flow” – that crucial part of your brain that allows you to get tasks done and feel good about yourself.  


ELEVEN: THE EXTRAORDINARY POWER OF EXERCISE

You know that exercise is good for your body. Among other facts, exercise decreases the risk of coronary heart disease and stroke and related factors, decreases the risk of various cancers, lowers blood pressure, improves metabolism, reduces problems related to diabetes, assists in the maintenance of bone density, and improves your immune system. But did you know that exercise is also good for your head? In research that has been conducted, exercise was found to be an effective anti-depressant both immediately and over the long term. In fact, over a period of just a few months, people who experience depression and related illnesses saw a significant improvement in their mental well-being. 


And, interestingly enough, the form you take in your exercise doesn’t appear to matter, as long as you are exercising your body. What was also discovered about exercise was that the greater the length of the exercise programme and the larger the total number of exercise sessions, the greater the decrease in depression. So, stop making excuses and get moving today! And, if you are stuck and are not sure how to create an exercise plan for you, check out this article from Helpguide.org as a good place to get you started.  


TWELVE: A POSITIVE APPROACH TO STRESS, ANGER AND OTHERS

Dr Ilona Boniwell is one of the most prominent positive psychology academics in Europe and I first came across her through her fast-paced Ted.com talk on how to teach children resilience, “Educating For Happiness and Resilience” See her ted.com talk here  Dr Ilona Boniwell uses the NUMB process to teach children how to manage stress effectively.  I really enjoy this technique and have adapted my learning and application of it to suit adults in my workshops and coaching. And, my experience is that it works just as well with adults…..


N = NOTICE THE NEGATIVE EMOTION


U = UNDERSTAND YOUR TRIGGERS AND EMOTIONS AND WHERE THEY HAVE COME FROM AS WELL AS THE AFFECT THEY HAVE ON YOU

M = MANAGE YOUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS


3 WAYS TO MANAGE NEGATIVE EMOTION

You can learn to manage your emotions in 3 ways through the acronym ACT.  ACT is a 3-part series of “interventions” as Dr Boniwell calls them or techniques that allow you to work through and release your negativity energy.


When using ACT, I would recommend starting with A and then moving onto C and then T – in this way you, you will give your brain a “routine” that allows it learn how to calm down.

ACTIVE INTERVENTIONS:  

E.G. GO FOR A QUICK RUN, A BRISK WALK, RUN UP AND DOWN ON THE SPOT FOR 60 SECONDS (YOU CANNOT DO THIS ACTIVITY AND RUMINATE ON YOUR NEGATIVE EVENT AT THE SAME TIME!). THIS TECHNIQUE ALLOWS YOU TO RELEASE THE MOST POTENT PART OF YOUR ANGER, FRUSTRATION, HURT ETC SO THAT YOU CAN MOVE TO THE NEXT STEP. REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE SITUATION AND TRY NOT TO FOCUS OR THINK ABOUT IT.


CALMING:

 E.G. DEEP BREATHE, REPEAT POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS SUCH AS “I AM OK”, “I WILL GET THROUGH THIS,” “I AM GOING TO BE OK”, DO SOME MEDITATION FOR 2 MINUTES.

When you practice these techniques, you allow your body and brain to calm itself and regain your ability to think rationally and in the moment.


THINKING INTERVENTIONS: 

E.G. CONSIDER YOUR OPTIONS, USE A REFRAME TO LOOK OBJECTIVELY AT THE SITUATION FROM BOTH PERSPECTIVES (SEE ABOVE SECTION ON FORGIVENESS ON 3 WAYS TO DO THIS) OR WORK THROUGH THE SITUATION USING SOME GOOD QUALITY QUESTIONS TO GUIDE YOU (SUCH AS “WHAT REALLY MATTERS TO ME IN THIS SITUATION”, “WHAT IS MY GOAL AND WHAT IS THE SHARED OUTCOME I WANT TO ACHIEVE FROM THIS SITUATION”)


Thinking in this way allows your brain to make objective, good decisions based on your values. 

When you make quick decisions in the moment of hurt, you usually go “below the line” and you most likely will act out of congruence with your values. 

This explains why you often replay and ruminate on negative events.

 

B = BUILD ON THE POSITIVE EMOTION



TYING IT ALTOGETHER

A SUMMARY OF TIPS ON HOW TO BEAT STRESS AND ANXIETY: 

  • Notice negative self-talk “I can’t cope”, “I’m too tired”
  • Identify triggers, situations that make you stressed and try to avoid them
  • Spend time with people who care about you and share your feelings
  • Exercise regularly
  • Eat a healthy diet and /stay well-nourished
  • Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs
  • Get enough sleep

Until next time, I will see you at the top!

Kerry Anne Cassidy Signature Feather


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